Updated: Oct 27, 2020
One of the biggest obstacles in your life is YOU!
I know, you didn't come here to be insulted! But the road to success starts in your head.
Here at Data Hive we believe that business growth and success starts with training the brain. You just aren't going to get to those goals if your head is stopping you.
We all do it from time-to-time: "I'm just not a lucky person," or "I was really bad at maths at school, so I won't be any good now." These are all thought patterns that will ultimately manifest themselves as your truth because that's the story you told yourself.
Being an entrepreneur is a rollercoaster ride. One minute you feel elated - you've had a win and it feels great! But five minutes later, your mood might totally flip because you have to deal with a customer complaint or a deal didn't come off.
When we have a set-back in business, it can be easy to let the emotion of that event dent our confidence and place a black cloud over all of our efforts.
The shift in mindset starts to focus on negative problems, so we see a shift towards anxiety-based problems instead of keeping our focus on a passion-based outcome.
THE FISBE MODEL
David Emerald's FISBE (Focus, Internal State & BEhaviour) model addresses this mindset. He believes that what we focus on has a direct effect on our whole inner state, which then effects our behaviour patterns.
We can easily see how this works in business. If there is a shift in focus from the outcome of a project to a problem that has occurred - then passion will change to anxiety which in turn will lead to the project being stalled.
A meeting will be called to see why the project has been stalled and then there will be search for answers to see if the problem can be solved - which leads to a state of anxiety and a general low mood and moral.
David Emerald believes: "Problems become like glue. The more we focus on them, the stickier they get".
The Power of TED* Click HERE to read more.
The story illustrates the way leaders believe their primary job is to fix problems. When problems are focused on, an inner state of anxiety is experienced and negative behaviour grows. It becomes a self-reinforcing “vicious” cycle, with each person coming up with more problems.
THE KARPMAN'S DRAMA TRIANGLE
If you've ever had the pleasure of working - you will have experienced The Karpman's Drama Triangle, a social model conceived by Dr Stephen Karpman in the 1960's. It illustrates the roles people take when they are in conflict.
You will be able to recognise work colleagues that fit into the roles of the "Rescuer", "Victim" and "Persecutor".
All these roles have a negative outcome.
Whilst we might perceive that being the "Rescuer" is a good role - they must be good at heart - right? But what they are doing is enabling the "Victim" and in some way, may get a self-esteem boost or derive enjoyment by having someone depend on them and trust them. The "Rescuer" will also shift into the "Victim" role when they don't want to rescue anymore.
All these behaviours lead to a toxic workplace. What's needed is a move away from these anxiety-based roles by reframing thinking to move forward in a team structure.
Thought patterns and behaviours need to be realigned with the business purpose.
NOT ONLY IN THE WORKPLACE
Whilst these behaviours may come to the forefront in an external conflict, the drama triangle can also manifest as an internal state.
As a business owner and entrepreneur it is easy to feel this internal battle with anxiety-based roles.
All you can do is face it head on and fight!
TIME TO "REFRAME"
How can you achieve change? David Emerald flipped the drama triangle upside down to create a solution called The Empowerment Dynamic (TED*).
Instead of focusing on the problems, we should be more aware of our internal state to switch our behaviour to a passion-based and outcome-focused state.
If you are able to become an observer in the process you will be able to recognise behaviour patterns within ourselves. If we can be more mindful we will be able to change to become the "Creator" (instead of "Victim"), "Coach" (instead of "Rescuer") and "Challenger" (instead of "Persecutor").
WORKING AS AN ENTREPRENEUR
It's easy to let the worry of doing well spiral in to anxiety and produce a negative effect. If you focus on negative outcomes - then they will eventually manifest themselves in your business.
It's tough going alone, whether it's all you or you have a team. To bring change - you need a plan that you can focus on for passion-based outcomes.
It's easy to let running your business take over. Here's my top tips for getting that monkey mind under control!
1. Be mindful. Keep your feelings in check. Look at the bigger picture.
2. Hatch a cunning plan that you can refer to for prioritisation. Always have your big goal in mind and don't sweat the small stuff - let it wash over you.
3. Be the observer. If you are feeling anxiety creeping up, ask yourself why? Hold your nerve - hurdles will come - but you can get over them.
4. Focus on the POSITIVE GOAL - step over the small problems. You have your vision to achieve.
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